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Ryan Montoya-Val


Hello – I’m Ryan, and I work with adults and teenagers who are stressed, exhausted, out of mana, or completely burnt out from the neurotypical world. When all your resources are exhausted and casting a couple of cantrips aren't going to help --- what you need is a long rest. But this isn't a game, this is real life --- is it even possible to have a long rest when the world throws so many expectations, demands and 'shoulds' at you?

Growing up as an unidentified neurodivergent person meant that I didn't get a headstart in understanding how to use and manage my energy and time. Becoming a Psychologist helped me start to understand my brain so I could protect myself from the parts of neurotypical culture that stressed, exhausted and drained me. 

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Some of the things that make me 'me'

Other people may describe me as

Burnt out from neurotypical'ing?

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I work with a lot of people who are stressed, exhausted or burnt out from the neurotypical world. The 'neurotypical world' is the one where we are expected to be at certain places at certain times or else we're in trouble, where we have to wear scratchy uncomfortable clothes instead of our comfy ones, and where we have to make polite yet boring small talk with too many people for not good enough reasons, and where we are expected to bury, mask and suppress our true selves so we can fit in with people we might not even like. All of these expectations and demands compound over time, and puts us at risk of burnout. 

When you're in burnout, it's like you're constantly tired, but more rest doesn't seem to help, it can be a struggle to do basic things like eat, shower, or go to school or work, and you tend to be more sensitive and reactive to people around you. 

I'd also call this 'survival mode' - when you're trying to live your life and manage as well as everyone around you seems to be managing, but it's just not working. And when you hit survival mode, you no longer have energy or motivation to do much else apart from just surviving. What people generally don't understand about burnout or survival mode is that you can still do low-demand activities - like play games or watch YouTube, Tik Tok or TV --- and when other people see that you can do those things, then they think you 'should' be able to do everything else too - but it just doesn't work that way.

With our powers combined, we can work out what your needs are and how to meet your needs without living constantly in survival mode or hitting full burnout. I definitely believe it is possible for neurodivergent folks to live rich and meaningful lives in a neurotypical world - and it starts with connecting with the right support so you can understand your brain, begin to accept yourself and learn how to protect your time, energy, and effort. With the right support you can stop playing life on 'hard mode'.

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By the time we finish working together

I want you to:

  • Know yourself and what you need - and how to prioritise your own needs.

  • Have learnt some coping skills to use when things are difficult.

  • Understand that you are not broken, you are just different.

  • Know that your feelings are valid.

  • Feel and act more compassionately towards yourself.

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More about Ryan

Home state: Victoria

My eye sparkles and SpIns (special interests) include: 

  • Music - listening, playing, and writing

  • Animals - I have 2 budgies, 2 cats and 3 chickens

  • Psychology

  • Comics and superheroes

  • Robots

  • Picross.

  • My spIns tend to ebb and flow!


  • The standard consultation fee for a 50-minute appointment with Ryan is $270. This applies to all clients, including privately paying clients, clients using Medicare or private health insurance and NDIS clients who are self-managed.

  • Fees for NDIS plan-managed clients are as per the NDIS price guide in your state for psychologists.

  • If you have a valid referral, Medicare rebates are available for appointments with Ryan. A rebate means you pay the full fee first and then receive a portion of the fee back from Medicare.

  • Private health insurance rebates are available, depending on your fund and level of cover.

  • You can read our Fees and Rebates page for more information.


  • Ryan works with us on Wednesdays.

  • Ryan's therapy wait list is estimated to be around 3 to 6 months. This is only a rough estimate, as our waitlists can be quite fluid, and sometimes there is movement, which means we might have unexpected appointments that pop up earlier than this.

  • Please click here to complete our waitlist and matching form. Our waitlist and matching form is designed to gather basic information about your needs to make sure we can offer you the service you need. This form also helps us match you with a clinician with the skills and experience to meet your needs.​​

  • Once we can offer you an appointment, we will send you a second intake form. This second intake form includes our full consent form, and we also request your credit card, debit card, or PayPal details. Rest assured that we take card security seriously, and your details are stored securely on our client management system, Halaxy. This security measure helps us prevent theft and fraud. No one at Very Helpful Chats will have access to your card details. If you have any concerns or questions regarding the security of your card details, we encourage you to read more about Halaxy's card security here: Halaxy Card Security FAQs
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